I have been struggling with postpartum anxiety.
It is really hard to deal with, and even harder to admit. However, I started seeing a therapist a little over a month ago, and so far, she has been immensely helpful.
One thing she has taught me is how important it is to take care of, and be kind to, yourself. If you aren’t kind to yourself, it is a lot harder to be kind to others. So, below I am going to share some tips to help you be kind to yourself. Hopefully, if you’re struggling, these tips will help you, like they have helped me.
1. Positive Affirmation
We use positive affirmation with children, spouses, family and friends to help them feel good about themselves. It is just as important to tell ourselves something positive about ourselves every day. My positive affirmation every day is, “I am a good mom.” If you can find just one good thing about yourself, use it! Turn it into a mantra, if you must. One day, you’ll believe it.
2. Do Something for Yourself
As a mom to an almost 6 month old, I find it so difficult to find time for myself every day, which I have learned is okay. But, I do manage to find time for myself at least once a week because, if I don’t, I can’t be the best me for my son. Whether it’s taking a shower alone, reading a book, writing a blog post, or anything else you can work into your schedule, do it! You’ll find yourself less stressed, and maybe a bit happier.
Eat Something Good! (Even if it’s bad for you)
Studies have shown that eating creates chemicals in the human body that make you happy! I’m no expert on chemicals and hormones, but I do know that I love food, sometimes more than people. Eating something I love every day, even if it’s considered “junk food”, makes me happy. As a bonus, eating is being kind to your body, because you need nutrition to live. So eat that piece of pizza, or that last cookie! You deserve it.
4. Enjoy Time with Others
Not everyone is an extrovert or social butterfly; I myself am very introverted. But, I have found that spending time with other people, ADULT people (since I am always with my son), can actually be really enjoyable if I just allow myself to enjoy it. I’m not saying you should force yourself to be uncomfortable! If you don’t feel like socializing, you don’t have to! But, I do know that when I am feeling extremely down and upset, talking to another grown adult can be really helpful. Sometimes, even just being around others, without talking, can help me get out of a funk.
Finally, whatever you do, just remember that you are human, and that you don’t have to be perfect!
Perfection, while it is something everyone seeks, is unattainable. If we were perfect, we wouldn’t be human! You are doing your best, and your best is definitely good enough. If the people in your life (kids, spouse, others) are generally happy and healthy, you’re doing a wonderful job.
So be kind to yourself, and being kind to others will come naturally.
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